It’s never personal, it just feels that way
Someone’s behaviour is about them… your response is about you.
It’s so easy to take everything personally, we love to make up that stuff is about us, when in reality, someone’s actions and behaviour is ultimately about them and where they’re at in life, their own egoic pattern…
The way you respond to anything though will reveal your patterns, your wounds, your level of compassion, forgiveness or understanding and what needs to be healed within you.
True awareness is when you see your reaction… you pause before you respond… you look at what it’s bringing up and you take ownership. You make a choice.
Recently I was upset with some thing my boyfriend said to me. Fortunately, I took a step back and slept on it. In the morning, I had that “aha “ moment… his comment was tapping into a long-held belief of mine about men… he triggered my wound, and like a scab on your hand that gets caught, it flipped open and I felt pain… it was my wound…
I breathed and embraced the opportunity to heal. My perception shifted and I saw my boyfriend’s comment in a completely different light.
Stepping back gave me the opportunity to heal, evolve and create closeness with my man.
Love yourself enough to give yourself the space to step back, reflect and heal.