OMG!!! Divorce is not only painful but stressful too!
Today I am sharing one of the easiest tips I know for transforming divorce stress. The first thing you have to realise is that YOU ARE WAY MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK, especially right now, if you’re going through the mill over your breakup or divorce. I know it doesn’t always feel that way, in fact, more likely you’re feeling powerless… because that’s what often happens when we focus on outside events… other people’s behaviour, actions, and words.
HOLD on to that thought, remember it, write it on post-it notes and stick them all over your house. Because divorce will test you…
So the reason I want you to remember YOU ARE WAY MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK… is so that you realise you are in control of your emotions, you are the mistress (opps maybe not the best phrase, ) you’re the Goddess of your emotional freedom and wellbeing…
So, when it feels like life or your previous partner has the better of you, CHOOSE TO DO THIS…
HEART FOCUSED BREATHING™
This is a technique which I learned whilst training as a HeartMath Coach, and it is one of the simplest but most powerful tools I know which can transform anxiety, panic, fear, stress in the moment, WITH YOUR EYES OPEN…which let’s face it, is really helpful (I’ve done this whilst sitting at a dinner table).
The first part is to make the decision in the moment to change the way you’re feeling.
- Focus your attention on your heart area… (yes the left hand side of your body where your heart resides). I would even put your hand on your heart, as it will bring your attention and awareness there.
- Start to breathe a little more slowly and deeply, breathe in for the count of 4 and out for the count of 4.
- Do this 3 times and then think of a positive emotion that you would like to feel, such as calm, happy, love, appreciation is usually the easiest… focus on that, if it’s helpful use an image, or a memory of being in nature.
- Notice how your heart rhythm has slowed down, and how you feel more centered and grounded.
This exercise has a direct impact on your Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) and will stop the secretion of the stress hormones, cortisol and adrenalin and release the vitality hormone DHEA (now that’s a good thing). The more frequently you practice this exercise, the more resilience you will build up in your body and mind, the more you’ll be able to cope and transform stress. It will have a direct impact on your emotional wellbeing.
If you have any questions that you need answering, then please comment below.